Sex, Lies & Videotape

Sex, Lies & videotape. I watched this movie today. I'd wanted to watch this movie from a long time. Didn't know what the fuss was all about . . . but still wanted to. Its one of those american indie films. In fact I've heard that this film sort of helped resurrect the Indie movement in America. Its a simple story of the complicated relationships of four characters. Four different characters.

Its surprising to me that the film is called Sex & Lies meanwhile I thought the characters in it were so much more honest than the people we usually come across in life. Ann is an introvert and shy woman is married to a lawyer, John but he is cheating on her with her sister, Cynthia, an extrovert and Loud girl as Ann would put it. Johns old college roommate, Graham arrives to town to stay with John until he finds an apartment of his to live. I am not going to review this film here and neither am i going to spell out the story here because I dont know how to do that.

What I take of this film, is the experience of relationships. For some people relationships mean nothing. Its so easy for them to fiend a relationship and have an absolutely guilt free sexual escapade. The physical pleasure holds above everything in spite of it being a momentary pleasure. Whereas for some others, its all about emotional bonding and belonging. As long as you are honest to who you are and respect the person before you , its ok. Its ok to be dishonest at somebody else's cost. Wait ..what am i saying here?

No sorry..its not ok to be dishonest at any cost. More than anything, it'll eat you from within. I am speaking out of my own experience. In the beginning of this film , Ann was shown seeing a Therapist but eventually, her issues were resolved by herself with the help of the confrontation she had with Graham. she found her own way out of the misery she was in. So you dont really need a therapist to have a breakthrough in the problems of your life. You just need the right motivation and the right person to open out to. I loved Cynthia too for her brave and bold character. She is not apologetic for who she is and probably even takes pride in what she is. Her world doesn't revolve around anybody but herself.

Wow ! I wish I could be like that. My happiness depends and revolves around the people in my life. I so hate it. I wish I could change that. I gave some morons so much importance that their indifference hits me hard. I allowed it. Its my fault. I need to change. Will try and change it. also, not everybody is lucky to find a man as sensitive as Graham. His inability to express his desires or his fears were met by the compassion of Ann. Anyways, I would want a strong man like..i dont know who, as yet.

Look at this, i am reflecting in on my own life while talking about the characters of this film, i guess thats what a good film ought to do, so i am guessing i loved the film. Not bad , huh !

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